How many times have you heard the phrase “sticks and stones may break bones, but words will never hurt me”, Or something like that. Basically saying that insults and the things people say to you, won’t break your spirit.
The last year has been a real eye opener in terms of relationships and how I communicate with others. One of the biggest things that’s stuck with me is, words are worthless. Again, Words are Worthless. They don’t count for anything. I know this might not make sense, but read on, I’ll explain.
I was listening to a podcast about six months ago, and one guy mentioned that people shouldn’t put much value in words. At first I was a bit confused and took me a while to get my head around it. But here’s the thing, you can listen to what people say, but the action behind the words is what you should put the most value on. E.g, would you rather someone tells you that they ‘love you’ or actually shows you that they do.
Wouldn’t it be so much better, if they showed you that they loved you or cared about you instead of just telling you. The actions that people do define who they are, and they should show you who they are.
People won’t tell you who they really are with there words, but they will truly show you who they are with their actions. A lot like that bloke who is always giving it the big one about how he’s gonna distribute his fist around the place, when actually when it comes down to it, he does nothing. He comes across as a big ballsy bloke with his words, but a coward with his actions.
A slightly different example, people wont tell you what they want, but if you look at their history and actions and then you can make a judgement on what the person really wants and will do.
In summary, try not to put weight behind peoples words, people will let you down. Instead, realise that peoples actions should show you how they really feel/think. Ultimately, this will show you what kind of people you should keep in your life and what kind of people you might not want to stick around. I am not saying stop listening to people, that’s just completely dumb. Just don’t take them for more than they are. Just words.
P.s. This is my first blog post, It might be waffley, I tried to keep in short and to the point, hope you take something away. I know this changed how I responded to peoples words. Again, first post, but they’ll always get better and more interesting.